Blogging Against Disablism Day

Definition of Disablism

disablism. —n. discrimination against disabled people. dis’ablist. —n, —adj. Collins English Dictionary – Complete & Unabridged 10th Edition …

Priority of Relationships

So, here is my two cents.  I am passionate about helping people connect with those who are disabled, wanting to see the separation between these two communities dismantled.

But, what I have found too often is that this ‘us’ and ‘them’ approach only perpetuates the struggles, and reinforces the barriers between the disabled and non-disabled communities.  To cry out that it is unfair, or to make more laws to allow more equality may well have its place, but the real issue that I see is not to be recognize as a person who has rights too, but to be accepted as a person who has needs just like any other individual.

People don’t need more things, they need healthier relationships.

I have heard people in nursing homes who lament that their physical condition makes it hard for them to do what they use to do;  I have heard people with mental health issues talk about how they feel like a prisoner in their own bodies; I have read stories of how people with developmental disabilities have experienced emotional pain because they are ‘not like others’.  And the one thing that, at least, seems to be a common denominator is these peoples’ lack of supportive care.

Yes, these people who are disabled have rights and we can give them all the rights in the world, but if our hearts are still oriented towards seeing the disabled community as different, then all we have done is to create of buffer between us, somehow -perhaps- feeling a satisfaction that we have done our part, and now can wash our hands from this community.

Listen, I struggle with this too.  My heart is for the person with disabilities, and yet, I am faced with a boat load of paperwork which needs to be completed so as to authenticate the time that I spend with them.  I understand the need for paperwork….to an extent.  At times, though, it seems counterproductive.

But, building healthier relationships through dismantling the stigmas, the myths, the stereotypes that have been placed upon the disabled community will enrich their lives and ours.

This type of unconditional support is a powerful medicine, and -aside from the time it takes for individuals to offer this- it is free.

I have seen people with disabilities who have a wonderful support network, and they absolutely shine.  Yes, their condition is not changed, per se, but they have been given hope, and hope that does not disappoint is a powerful medicine.

Thus, dismantling disabilities must ultimately end with a change of heart rather than a decision from politicians.

photo credit: PaulEisenberg

Love your neighbor as yourself
Matthew 22.39