I just found an interest site, Feelings of the Disabled , and I would like to highlight one of the statements that is found there: “The Greatest Compliment to a Disabled Person”, which is to treat him as everyone else.
Sounds simple enough, heh? Let’s spell it this out. N-O-R-M-A-L. There is no smoke and mirrors here, but just a need to shoot from the hip, to let your hair down, to treat them as N-O-R-M-A-L.
But it isn’t easy, my friends. Our society has groomed us somewhere along the line to treat people with disabilities as different. And if the truth is known, it wasn’t easy for me either. I struggled thinking that because they were disabled that I needed to help them.
Now that may be a good thing to do, but connecting with anyone else needs to be done on the basis of equality, on the basis that both of you have something to bring to the table in order to see if the relationship will go further. Well, when I figured that one out, it was a whole lot easier to connect. Really!
When I figured out that my friends with disabilities wanted what I wanted in a relationship, like someone to talk with, someone to believe in them, someone who won’t give up on them in their struggles, I started treating them ‘like everyone else’ because I started seeing them as n-o-r-m-a-l.
So that is my bit of wisdom for today. Remember that song, “He ain’t heavy, he’s my brother” (It hit the charts, I think, back in the late 1960’s/ early 1970’s). Well, the title says a lot: reach out to the disabled community as though they were not a burden, but see them as brothers.