“Your beliefs don’t make you a better person, your behavior does.”
Personal values are important, but…
The person who tells you that he is kind to all, then who quickly turns around in the check out line to give a piece of his mind to that mother who can’t control her kid as he pushed the cart into his ankles…is just one of many examples of the unnecessary stress we have because our lifestyles don’t mirror our beliefs.
While it may be natural to say, we all do it, it becomes a big problem when you are a caregiver trying to assist your clients towards better lifestyles. In my previous post, I gave the example of a group advocating for their clients to define their own goals, but with the unspoken caveat of as long as it is ‘doing it my way’.
So, just how is your value system influencing those people in your charge?
Believing in God’s love
I find many who believe that God loves them, but who choke when putting this into practice. Some of the evidences are poor choices, unhealthy relationships, and a disregard for the advice of their support team.
So, let me unpack this value for you.
If a person believes that God loves them, then, one of the consequences is that this person will at least WANT to make wiser choices (Ps. 37:4), and avood r choices’.sDelight yourself in the Lord; And He will give you the desires of your heart.”
Then, he will want to build better connections with the people around him. (Matthew 22:36-39), and shun unhealthy relationships.
36 “Teacher, which is the great commandment in the Law?” 37 And He said to him, “‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the great and foremost commandment. 39 The second is like it, ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’
Lastly, this individual will want to listen to the advice of his support team (Proverbs 23:9), and not want to readily disregard this advice.
Do not speak in the hearing of a fool, For he will despise the wisdom of your words.
All this is NOT to suggest that the individual will live perfectly. Rather, it provides a foundation upon which to continually hone one’s skills at life. It provides a focal point for the individual to look to when things are not going well.
I have created a tool to help you clarify how well you live by your values